by David J. Stewart
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"As he that taketh away a garment in cold weather, and as vinegar upon nitre, so is he that singeth songs to an heavy heart." -Proverb 25:20
I know what it's like to have a broken heart. It's been said "you
can't sing the blues until you've lived them." We'll I don't sing
the blues but I sure could if I had a voice to sing, I'll tell you. There is a favorite Scripture of mine back in the Old Testament which
God Draws Near to Those With a Broken Heart
God has been near to
me most of my life because I often have a broken heart. That said, I
thank God for the tormentuous times in my life. Unshakable faith
comes from having our faith shaken. What a comforting truth to know
that God draws near to those with broken hearts. You may not realize
that God is near, but He certainly is. Just because you don't feel
God's presence doesn't mean that He's not there. We must trust the
heart of God when we cannot see the hand of God at work.
God Wants Us to Have a Broken Heart
Yes, God wants us to have a broken heart.
We are talking about two different types of broken hearts here: one that we choose to have, and then one that we have no control over. James 4:8 speaks of the type of broken heart that we choose to have. This is when we stop to consider all the lost sinners in this world who are headed for an eternal destruction in Hell if they don't get saved. This is when we consider the poor and less fortunate of this world. This is when we stop to pray for OTHERS who are having problems and hardships.
Bible teaches that the way to draw near to God is to "be afflicted." Turn off the TV and the radio, think about someone who is less fortunate
than you as you approach the Lord in prayer, and then God says He'll draw
nigh unto you also. What a Savior! God promises to meet us
The Broken Heart God Doesn't Want Us to Have
The other type of broken heart is the one that comes upon us suddenly. This broken heart is when a loved one dies and is gone forever. This broken heart is when financial hardships force a family into bankruptcy or massive debt. This broken heart is when a marriage just doesn't seem to be working out. Everyone carries a heavy burden at times, some people all the time. Could you imagine being the parent of a quadriplegic child?
Could you imagine having to care for that child your whole life? Many parents are doing just that. Could you imagine being paralyzed, stuck in a wheel chair all day for the rest of your life. I thought about Christopher Reeves often while he was alive. But you know, there's a lot of people just like him that receive little or no attention at all. Talk about a broken heart! We are so spoiled and blessed of God.
If your broken heart is because of something horrible that you did (a crime or something foolish you did), then you need to make it right with the person you hurt FIRST, then confess your sins to God. If you're wrong, you're wrong! Make it right!
If your devastated and sad because of a death in the family, then you have every right to mourn. Don't you allow anyone to tell you that you've mourned long enough, you take as long as it takes. It may take a year or two for you to recover from your loss... that is perfectly acceptable. The healing process takes time. It's been said "Time heals all wounds."
I have found this to be true. We all respond to tragedy different but the usual response is at first DENIAL. We have a tendency to live in denial that something has actually happened (such as a death). We are in a state of shock for some time as we cannot believe what has happened. This may take a few months or even years.
step in the healing process is to ACCEPT what has happened. This takes time, there are no shortcuts. We must be extremely
patient and supportive of those who are going through this healing
process. Some people are cruel and have little understanding. Once we have accepted the fact that we cannot do anything about spilt milk
or water under the bridge, then we can truly begin to heal. That which does not defeat us can only make us stronger.
The Remedy for Any Broken Heart
God offers the first and the most important remedy for you to find healing through His son Jesus Christ. Romans 5:1 declares that we have "peace" with God through the Lord Jesus Christ. Ephesians 2:14 declares that Jesus IS our peace, "For he is our peace, who hath made both one, and hath broken down the middle wall of partition between us;"
NO Jesus, NO Peace
KNOW Jesus, KNOW Peace
The healing found through Jesus mends your relationship with God and brings wholeness to your spirit, this process is often referred to as "Salvation." Once that relationship is mended you will find that God brings healing to the other areas of your life, emotional, physical and relational.
Perhaps you have
a broken heart because of sin. Sin is the cause of almost every
problem you will ever face in life. But there is a way to have
victory over sin: even though we offend and abuse God by our thoughts and
actions He offers us forgiveness in Jesus Christ. To experience
this, you must be born again. It is God's greatest desire for you. Even if you think you have all your immediate problems solved, what good
will it do in the long run, if you lose your own soul?
"Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you." —1st Peter 5:7