Being A Godly Husband

By David J. Stewart | March 2014

"He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?" -Micah 6:8

       Being a godly husband is a work in progress. Some guys try harder than others, plain and simple. There are no perfect marriages, no perfect wives, no perfect husbands, et cetera. No two human beings can spend lots of time with each other without conflict. The key is to learn how to constructively deal with that conflict, so as to avoid unhealthy ways of dealing with conflicts, such as losing one's temper and various types of abuse. I am a firm believer in the old cliché... “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure!”

Here are some basic principles for men that will help you to be a better husband in the Lord...

All of the preceding points are just being a regular Christian. There is no magic to building a happy marriage. A happy marriage means a happy home, which will mean happy children. A healthy marriage is never an accident; but rather, it takes two committed people to building a happy marriage. If you are thinking that you spouse needs to do better, than you are missing the point. A marriage is two people making a life for each other! A marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship. Jesus said that the greatest amongst you shall be YOUR SERVANT. Husbands and wives ought to serve each other, submitting one to another as the Bible commands in Ephesians 5:21, “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.”

There are unresolved anger issues in most marriages. Learn to place everything, including your anger and bitterness over bad past experiences, into God's hands for judgment (Romans 12:19; Matthew 12:36). Be better today than you were yesterday! We all feel like failures, and that's true of husbands and wives. Forgiveness in the Bible means “to let go, or release.” The best marriage is between two forgivers! Forgiveness is a mark of those who follow Christ. There is no joy in life without forgiveness. God's forgiveness of man becomes a pattern of man's forgiveness of man.

The Sin Of Divorce

Divorce is always wrong, even in cases of adultery. You've been told wrong if you've heard otherwise.

Jesus never gave permission to divorce an unfaithful spouse; but rather, to divorce a spouse who has permanently forsaken you by running off with another partner. To teach that it is ok to divorce a spouse who has been unfaithful, who is sorry and repentant, and doesn't want a divorce, is to totally violate Matthew 18:22 by refusing to forgive. Jesus commanded to forgive not only 7 times a day, but 7 x 70, which is 490 times in a single day. Or in other words, unlimited forgiveness. What if your spouse commits murder, bank robbery or some other non-sexual crime? Doesn't that give you grounds to divorce? You cannot find anything in the Bible to justify a divorce. So why in the world would God allow divorce only in the case of adultery?

I think the Old Testament proves what I am saying. When God divorced the nation of Israel, it was only after centuries of continued unfaithfulness and spiritual adultery. God never divorced His own; but rather, it was a business agreement gone bad. God broke off His covenant with the nation of Israel, which according to Exodus 19:2 was CONDITIONAL upon OBEDIENCE. The Hebrews disobeyed again and again, even murdering the prophets that God sent to warn them of the judgment to come if they didn't repent. Hebrews 13:5 promises that God will NEVER leave nor forsake His own. If we are to exemplify our Savior, Jesus Christ, then we ought to do the same.

Ye Must Be Born Again!