Finding A Godly Wife
By Seraphim Slobodskoy
Proverb 31:10, "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies."
Sarah,
the wife of Abraham, died when she was 127 years old. Abraham himself began to grow
weak and decided to find a wife for his son Isaac, not a Canaanite, but a
maiden of his own kindred. Isaac was then forty years old.
Abraham called his oldest servant, Eleazar, and said to him, "Swear by
the Lord, the God of Heaven and earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto
my son from among the daughters of the Canaanites among whom I dwell, but
thou shalt go unto my country, and to my kindred, and take a wife unto my
son Isaac."
Eleazar gave the oath and immediately set out on his way. There was then the custom that the bridegroom gave the parents gifts for the bride; the more wealthy the bride, the more precious the gifts or dowry.
Eleazar took with him, as gifts, many expensive items and ten camels, and
set out for
Approaching the city, Eleazar stopped at a well. It was approaching
evening, the time when the women usually came to draw water. Eleazar began
to pray to God. He said, "O Lord God of my master Abraham, I pray Thee, send
me good speed this day, and show kindness unto my master Abraham. Behold, I
stand here by the well of water, and the daughters of the men of the city
come out to draw water. And let it come to pass, that the maiden to whom I
shall say, ‘Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee that I may drink’ and she
shall say, ‘Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also:’ let the same be
she that thou hast appointed for Thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know
that Thou hast showed kindness unto my master."
Eleazar had just finished the prayer when a beautiful maiden with a
pitcher on her shoulders came to the well, drew water, and started back.
Eleazar ran to her and said, "Let me, I pray thee, drink a little water of
thy pitcher."
The maiden said, "Drink, my lord." And right away she lowered the pitcher
from her shoulder, and gave him to drink. When Eleazar had drunk, the maiden
said, "I will draw water for thy camels also, until they have done
drinking." She straightway poured the water from her pitcher into the trough
and ran again to the well to draw water, and drew water for all his camels.
Eleazar watched her in silence and amazement.
When the camels stopped drinking, Eleazar took a golden ring and two
bracelets for her arms, and gave them to her and asked her, "Whose daughter
art thou? Tell me, I pray thee: is there room in thy father’s house for us
to lodge in?"
This maiden was named Rebecca. She answered, "I am the daughter of
Bathuel, the son of Nahor. We have both straw and provender enough, and room
to lodge in." Eleazar knelt down and gave thanks to God that He had heard
his prayer.
Rebecca ran to the house and told all of this to her mother and all in
the house. Rebecca had a brother, Laban. He immediately ran to the well and
said to Eleazar, "Come in, thou blessed of the Lord: wherefore standest thou
without? For I have prepared the house and room for the camels."
Eleazar entered the house. Laban unsaddled the camels, gave them straw
and fodder. Right away they brought water to wash the feet of Eleazar and
the men who were with him and offered them food.
Eleazar said, "I will not eat until I explain my business...I am
Abraham’s servant." Eleazar told in detail why he had come and how, at his
prayer, the Lord granted a sign concerning Rebecca. When he had told
everything, he asked, "Now, if ye will deal kindly and truly with my master,
tell me; and if not, tell me."
Laban and Bathuel answered, "This is a doing of the Lord. We cannot
contradict thee. Behold, Rebecca is before thee. Take her and go, and let
her be thy master’s son’s wife, as the Lord hath spoken."
When Eleazar heard such words, he bowed down to the earth before the Lord
with thanksgiving. Then he took the gold and silver items and clothing, and
gave them to the bride, her brother, and mother.
On the next day, Eleazar asked that they let them go home. But the
brother and mother of Rebecca began to persuade him to remain at least ten
days. But Eleazar answered, "Hinder me not, for the Lord hath prospered my
way."
Then the parents called Rebecca and asked her, "Wilt thou go with this
man?"
Rebecca said, "I will go."
Then her parents blessed her and let her go. When Eleazar, with Rebecca
and his men, approached the tents of Abraham on their camels, Isaac met
them. Rebecca became the wife of Isaac. Love for Rebecca consoled Isaac in
his mourning for the death of his mother, Sarah.
Note: See Genesis, chaps. 23, 24.
The marriage of Isaac is an example for all generations. How often young
people go astray in this very important question in their life, upon
entering into marriage. Some look for wealth, others for physical beauty,
others for a good family, and so on.
Only rarely do they look for wisdom and a meek and good heart,
that is, internal, spiritual beauty. The former qualities are temporary and
pass away, but the latter, internal qualities are constant and do not depend
on external circumstances.
An improper attitude towards marriage comes from the fact that people
want to make their own happiness, without God, according to their own
egotistical fancies.
Christian men and women who wish to enter into marriage must fervently
pray that the Lord, the Seer of hearts, will Himself, according to His will,
arrange their marriage and bless them with His Grace. Without God’s blessing
no one can find happiness, good order in married life, and a truly Christian
family.
A good Christian family is a bulwark for good morals, the soil for the
planting of good in mankind, the tool and means for the furthering of the
holy Church of Christ and confirming it upon the earth.
The family is also the foundation of the nation, as Philaret, Metropolitan of Moscow, wrote, "In the family lie the seeds of everything that later sprouts and grows into the greater family which is called the nation."
SOURCE: The Marriage of Isaac
