“Shacking Up” Is Fornication,
A Big Sin, And
You Have No Right To Claim A Lover As Your Own
By David J. Stewart | February 2018
Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”
Shacking-Up is a Sin
“Shacking-up” as it is called in the United States is the sin of fornication. I have to be careful when responding to e-mails, because I am so loving in my heart that there is a temptation at times to coddle people in their sins, to sanction and encourage them in their wrong ways, just to make them feel better. But I refuse to go there and become like that, which would make me a horrible Christian and bad preacher if I did that. It is not okay to make somebody feel okay who is living in sin.
If you shack up with someone, and they leave you at some point, you have no biblical or legal right to complain! She is not your wife or husband! Perhaps you say, “Well, if a couple are living together as a man and wife, maybe God sees them as married.” Okay, then why get married? I'll tell you why, because without a legally binding marriage there is no way to hold someone accountable for committing adultery! And here is biblical “proof” that shacking-up is NOT the same as marriage. 1st Corinthians 7:2, “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” So if shacking-up were considered marriage in God's eyes, then why would God tell a person to get married to avoid fornicating? Clearly, living together, that is, cohabiting in a physically intimate relationship, is not a marriage in God's sight.
Again, “Shacking-up” as it is called in the United States is the sin of fornication. 1st Corinthians 6:18, “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.” People have lost their shame in Europe, Australia, the United States and around the world. It is a very shameful thing for a woman to be pregnant and unmarried. Congratulations On Your Bastard! (tough love preaching by Pastor Steven L. Anderson; pregnancies out of wedlock are terrible, tragic and shame). When I was a kid, I remember that alcohol was sold in the back of grocery stores, hidden from view. But today, on Guam where I live, they sell “Guam Beer” at K-mart at the checkout lines, having no shame. All along Marine Drive (the main street around the island), there are flowers and memorials where deadly accidents have claimed the lives of loved ones, nearly all because of the consequences of alcohol-impaired driving. Drunkenness is epidemic on Guam. We don't have 8-inch street light poles on Guam; but rather, 3-foot think concrete beams to withstand the incredible power of typhoons. These poles are where many drunk drivers have met their Maker, dead at the scene. Drunkenness is a sin! Fornication is a sin! Adultery is a sin!
Adultery is breaking one's marriage vows, being unfaithful to one's spouse. No doubt some people would say, “Well what if my spouse gave me permission?” God didn't give you permission! Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” NO ONE has God's permission to sin! No one! It may be true that you didn't “cheat” on your spouse if he or she gave you permission, but you did cheat on God, because He commands every human being to live right. I say this because there are many “swingers” in society today, which has become a disturbing trend in America. Please understand that I am not condemning anybody. If you want to find a big sinner, then you've already found him. I am a guilty sinner, just like you, just like everybody else! Romans 3:23, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.” So I judge no man.
Shacking-Up in Fornication Keeps the Ungodly Abortion Industry Going
Fornication is a horrible sin, which has fueled the abortion industry since the 1960's in America. A shocking 83% of all abortions are by unwed mothers! By 1973, when the federal government (big brother) stepped in and forced abortion upon all 50 states, 37 states had already legalized abortion. How shameful and evil! And may I say, to abort a child is to needlessly take the life of an innocent human being, depriving them of all the privileges, rights and blessings that God intended for them to have in life. NO ONE has a right to destroy another person's life. The ungodly U.S. Supreme Court, and all Americans who remain silent about abortion, have blood on their hands and are to blame. Our government does what they do IN OUR NAME, and WITH OUR MONEY, so it is OUR BUSINESS!!! Abortion is nothing less than cold-blooded murder!!! I praise God for every young mother, who against every manner of adversity and hardship, still chose to have her baby. GOOD FOR YOU! AND GOOD FOR BABY! Praise God for responsible mothers!
By the way, having an abortion doesn't make a woman unpregnant, it just makes her the mother of a dead baby!!! I am not condemning any woman who has had an abortion. There is forgiveness through the precious blood of Jesus Christ. When You Hit Bottom (MP3 by Dr. Jack Hyles, “The everlasting arms are at the bottom of sin tonight!”). God wants to forgive you, and He promises to, but only on the basis of what Christ did through the cross to pay for your sins. There is no forgiveness any other way! Sadly, in Russia, MOST mothers murder their baby by abortion!!! What a horrible crime against God and humanity!
If I were a king with unlimited power, I'd burn every Planned Parenthood center to the ground. You'll find that in many places abortion clinics are unmarked, so that the public would never suspect humans are murdered there. It is reminiscent of the horror movie starring Charleton Heston called, “Soylent Green.” In this film, the government is taking dead people and turning them into food for the living. Of course, it is all done in secret, hiding it from the public. In reality, sicko companies have been caught using aborted babies to enhance food flavor! If you think that is bad, hospitals in Europe have been using aborted fetuses for fuel to heat their hospitals. The shocking movie “Soylent Green” is now a reality! SOYLENT GREEN IS PEOPLE!! ABORTED BABIES ARE BEING USED FOR FOOD AND FUEL!!! Brother Lester Roloff (1914-1982) is so right: The world has gone insane and the inmates are running the asylum!!! Scotty, beam me up!
The entire abortion industry would virtually disappear overnight if Americans would stop fornicating, shacking-up instead of getting married. A shocking 83% of all abortions are by unwed mothers! Only 14% of married woman have abortions. The most common reasons given (which are all irresponsible excuses) are lack of money, trouble in the relationship, too much pressure and being a single parent. The truth is that all those women need to GET RIGHT WITH GOD!!! There is no excuse for murder. You dropped your pants, now take responsibility for your behavior. That's the big problem in America today, people are not held accountable for many of their horrible decisions. People get away with lying, cheating, stealing, sexual immorality and even murder! My intent is never to scold anyone who has messed up, but to keep those who haven't messed up yet from doing so!
You Have No Rightful Claim To a Girlfriend Or Boyfriend
Now, if you are shacking up, I am not condemning you! The Holy Bible already does that (Hebrews 13:4). If you have a possessive nature toward someone, then you should marry them before they move on! Otherwise you have no biblical nor legal right to claim that person as your own. This wicked generation today needs to hear the plain, hard, truth, which is that until you are legally married, you have no right to claim someone as yours! Men, if you shack up, she has every right to walk away!!! That hurts, I know, and it may not seem fair, but if you want to be able to claim somebody, YOU MUST MARRY THEM LEGALLY!!! The Bible plainly teaches that the husband OWNS his wife! And the wife OWNS her husband! That is solid Bible my friend!!! 1st Corinthians 7:4-5a, “The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other...” Literally, this verse means that a husband and wife should submit to each other's intimate advances and needs any time they want each other! But this ONLY applies to a legally-binding marriage!!!
Some people may get the wrong idea from some of the articles I share on my website, about warning men to be careful if they get married. My intent in sharing these articles is never to encouraging shacking-up; but rather, to warn men about what can happen if things go wrong in a marriage, and to help them be cautious in selecting a wife. A person MUST be a born-again believer BEFORE you marry them (2nd Corinthians 6:14). What you see is what you get, and don't ever deceive yourself into thinking that you will change someone after marrying them. I guarantee you that whatever it is about a person that annoys you today, will be ten times worse later if you marry them. If you think they are weird now, you haven't seen anything yet! I have received so many e-mails from good people, believers, who knowingly married an unsaved person, and now they are paying the price! I always try to help them, as best that I can, but they are stuck. Be very careful who you choose as a partner in life, because it is for life, for better or worse!
But to claim somebody as your very own, you must GET LEGALLY MARRIED!
What Does the Bible Say About Divorce and Remarriage?
I have received countless letters from wounded people, victims of divorce, who are having a hard time sorting it all out. And to make matters much worse, preachers have dozens of different opinions on marriage, divorce and remarriage. So my advice to everyone is this. First, no matter what you do some people are going to criticize you. Many of them are sincere, they are just locked into certain preconceived ideas. Love those critics, and don't take their hateful words to heart. The only opinion that matters is God's opinion.
I recently received an e-mail from a divorced man, who has now remarried, but he has felt guilt about it for many years. I shared with him the following Bible verse from 1st Corinthians 7:2, “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” This Bible verse doesn't say... if you've never been married before! No, it says LET EVERY MAN HAVE HIS OWN WIFE, AND LET EVERY WOMAN HAVE HER OWN HUSBAND. So that means if you are divorced, to avoid fornication, you ought to get married. That is what the Word of God says in plain words my friend!!! Argue if you will, that is what God says! The way to stop fornicating is to GET MARRIED!!!
Now the apostle Paul was either divorced or a widower. Paul was “loosed” from a wife (1st Corinthians 7:27). 1st Corinthians 7:8-9, “I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.” Biblically, if a person is divorced, it is best to remain single, BUT if they are being tempted to fornicate, then they should remarry. That is what the Bible says. Perhaps you say it is “adultery” for some people to remarry. Clearly, it is never right to commit the sin of adultery, yet there is no way to reconcile Paul's teaching in 1st Corinthians 7:2 to marry to avoid fornication, with the idea that remarriage is never permitted.
When the Lord spoke out against adultery, you must keep in mind the spirit in which He said it. The Pharisees were looking for a way to justify divorce. So the Lord rebuked them sternly and warned them that to do so would make them guilty of adultery. But this is quite different than someone who has already made this mistake in life, and are now divorced, for whatever reason, and they are alone and hurting. I say that person ought to remarry rather than “burn” in lust and loneliness, and that is exactly what 1st Corinthians 7:2 and 7:8-9 teach. Again, you cannot merely interpret Matthew 19:9 (which forbids divorce and remarriage), without taking into consideration 1st Corinthians 7:2 (which says to marry to avoid fornication). Clearly then, there is a deeper meaning.
There are far too many hypothetical situations to address in this brief article, but I know the Lord looks at all the facts, the pureness of one's intentions, and He judges with righteousness judgment. Ecclesiastes 12:13 says that man's “whole duty” in life is to “fear God and keep His commandments.” I think God sees the difference between a person who remarries while the ink is still wet on their divorce papers, verses the person who has waited several years to see what might happen, if there is a chance of reconciliation, before moving on.
God's Way is Marriage
Marriage is not just the old-fashioned way, it is God's way! Hebrews 13:4 says, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Shacking-up is a sin!!! If you refuse to marry someone, yet want to enjoy the privileges of the married life, you are bringing God's judgment down upon yourself! We live in a perverse culture today in America of whores and whoremongers. I am not judging anyone! God wants most people to get married, with few exceptions, but for those who have dedicated their life to remain single for the Kingdom of Heaven's sake, they must remain celibate. That is God's plan.
The ungodly Walt Disney corporation (an Illuminati family) glorifies shacking-up and “relationships” (a key word for fornication). When a woman says she's, “not in a relationship right now,” what she really means is that she is taking a time-out from her whoring around. She is a whore! I say that kindly. She goes from one bum to the next! Any man who would have premarital sex is a bum! Ladies, you can do better than that! You find you a godly man who cares about you enough to put a ring on your finger and commit himself only to you for life, before letting him have the good stuff!
But if you shack-up with someone outside of a lawful marriage, and they later dump you, it is your own fault for not getting legally married. It is much harder to walk away from a legally-binding marriage, then it is to just walk out the door from a relationship. If you shack-up and your lover leaves you, don't come crying to God, because that person was never yours in the first place. The Holy Bible teaches us to get married because God knows that nothing else works.
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